I am not a patient person when it comes to my life or my work. If you know me, you will know that I like things done in a certain way, usually efficiently. I am a very curious person, so once I have started something, whether it’s a project, a piece of work or learning a new skill, I want to finish it as quickly as I can so I can start the next thing. Essentially, I’m always in a rush.
This isn’t always a bad thing, but when it comes to mental health it has well an truly bitten me in the bum. Recovery from any mental health issue takes time. There is no magic cure, no wonder pill or set ‘way’ to make yourself feel better. All of this means that when I’m struggling it grates against my nature even more, so I have had to learn to be gentle with myself. It hasn’t been an easy journey and has included a LOT of trial and error, but here are my top 3 tips when you’re learning to be gentle with yourself:
LET YOURSELF MAKE MISTAKES
Everyone makes mistakes, it’s a fact of life. Some are bigger than others, granted, but beating yourself up over them won’t change what has happened, it will only make you feel worse. Rather than focusing on what has gone wrong focus on what you’ll do differently if you’re in that situation again.
We all question whether we are doing enough. Should we blog more, take up a new hobby, see more friends, achieve more at work – the list goes on. There will always be more that you can do, but if you spend all of your time chasing ‘more’ then you will burn out very quickly. Allow yourself to relax, you’ll get more done if you’re properly rested.
Comparison is the thief of joy. If you focus on the successes of others and compare them to your own life you will always come out the loser. We’re all running our own race (cliche as it is) and it’s OK to be proud of your accomplishments and blow your own trumpet – if you don’t who else will?